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How Do You Know Whether It’s Time to Listen, Work, or Act?

Have you ever felt pulled in different directions by your own life? Like really pulled every which way so much that it also feels like none at all at the same time? Maybe part of you wants to slow down, sit quietly, reflect, and just listen to what your heart is trying to tell you.

However, another part of you wants to focus, to make progress, to be disciplined, to stop overthinking and get things done!

And then there is another voice altogether. The one that says: “Enough thinking. Just do something.” So how do we know what is needed right now?

  1. When is it time for contemplation?
  2. When is it time for diligence?
  3. And when is it time for action?

The answer may not be as simple as choosing one over the others. Perhaps all three have an important role to play. Here are some clues as to what might be a path forward for you at this moment.

Contemplation: Sometimes We Need to Listen

Many people spend years moving from one responsibility to the next without ever asking themselves a simple question: “What do I actually want?”

Modern life provides endless opportunities for distraction:

  • Phones
  • Streaming services
  • Social media
  • Work
  • Noise
  • Simply being busy for busy’s sake

None of these things are necessarily bad. Yet they can make it surprisingly difficult to hear our own deeper thoughts. Sometimes what we call confusion is actually a lack of quiet. The poet Rumi wrote:

“There is a voice that doesn’t use words. Listen.”

When you stop and listen, you might just hear a deluge of thoughts about all the things you should be doing, could be doing, or all the things you haven’t done on the endless to-do list that might run through your head. That can be challenging and even outright disturbing.

It can evoke feelings of powerlessness, overwhelm, shame, guilt, or even just feeling a little crazy.  It’s okay. That’s normal for people who may have been running on autopilot or playing catch up to overwhelming circumstances life may have been dealing out to you.

When swimming in this deluge of thought, perhaps at first, you may notice some things that have escaped your attention and need to be attended to. You might set some new priorities. You might reevaluate some things. You might even let some things go. Some people like to write all these things down and see on paper all the things that are running through your head. Whateve works for you, get it all out. Then do it again as soon as you’re ready, perhaps the next day, perhaps next week.

After you’ve done that, this may be your next step. Listening requires space. It requires slowing down long enough to notice what excites us, what drains us, what hurts, what keeps returning to our attention, and what brings us joy and desire. Now, you’re allowing yourself to hear beyond your daily grind, beyond your to-do list, beyond past expectations.

This may be the inner voice Rumi spoke about. While you might articulate your thoughts in words, try to stay focused on emotion again: what excites you, what drains you, what hurts, what keeps returning to your attention, and what brings you joy and desire.

In a sense you may be seeing the big picture of your life and being by diving deeper into your heart. This is deep contemplation. Contemplation helps us discover direction.

Without it, we may become very efficient at pursuing goals that do not truly matter to us.

Diligence: Sometimes We Need to Focus

Of course, listening alone is not enough. Most meaningful things in life require effort such as:

  • Relationships
  • Health
  • Careers
  • Creative projects
  • Personal growth

Many dreams remain dreams because they never receive sustained attention. There are seasons when the most loving thing we can do for ourselves is to stop searching for new answers and start working with the answers we already have.

When you choose one thing to focus on, you may be surprised at how many resources, time, and energy you actually have to accomplish it. You may find the missing piece was simply focusing.

Focus, however, isn’t always simple. It can be a tough road. We often think of establishing priorities or even one priority for this moment, this hour, this day. One thing to focus on. It seems so simple and in a sense it is. The hard part of focusing is the part we don’t talk about as much and that’s choosing what we’re not going to focus on. We must let some things go for now, for the day, the year, or even indefinitely. Try writing down what you’re not going to focus on, look at it, and let it go for now. Author Louise Hay said it well.

“You can’t reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday’s junk.”

Insight can reveal a destination and diligence helps us travel the road. However, focus transforms possibility into progress. The two parts of focus are choosing a priority AND choosing to let some things go for now, or maybe forever, or sometime in between. In any case, Lin Yutang described this process as nothing less than a noble act. 

“Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone.”

Action: Sometimes We Need to Act Today

Then there are moments when neither reflection nor planning will provide the answer. Only action can do that. Many of us wait for certainty before we move. We want guarantees. We want proof.

We want to know that the relationship, career change, move, business idea, or difficult conversation will work out. Life rarely offers that kind of certainty.

Action provides something equally valuable: feedback.

  • The entrepreneur learns by launching.
  • The artist learns by creating.
  • The traveler learns by going.
  • The person seeking connection learns by reaching out.

Action reveals what contemplation cannot. The philosopher Søren Kierkegaard famously wrote:

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”

Sometimes the next step is not clear because we are trying to think our way to an answer that can only be discovered through experience. When we do something about it, it might not work out and that can reveal what we need to do next. Or, it might actually work out and that also can reveal what to do next. Like Martin Luther King said…

“You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”

How Do We Know Which One Is Needed?

Perhaps the better question is not: “Which one should I choose?” Instead, you might ask yourself: “What seems to be missing right now?”

  • If your life feels rushed, scattered, or disconnected from meaning, perhaps you need more listening.
  • If you know what matters but find yourself procrastinating, perhaps you need more focus.
  • If you have been thinking about the same decision for months or years, perhaps you need more action.

Each serves a different purpose.

  • Listening helps us discover what our heart desires.
  • Focus helps us build what matters.
  • Action helps us learn what is real.

Wisdom will not come from mastering one of these practices. It comes from learning when each is needed and using them intentionally. An anonymous quote might say it best.

“Every season asks something different of us. Wisdom is knowing whether this is your time to plant, to tend, to harvest, or to rest.” 

And perhaps that is one of life’s great lessons. Not to remain forever in contemplation. Not to become consumed by productivity. Not to act recklessly. But to move between listening, focus, and action as life calls for each.

Reflection Questions

As you think about your life right now, what seems to be missing?

  • More listening?
  • More focus?
  • Or more action?

Further Reading

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